Day #3

Tonight make his favorite meal or dessert. (or both!) Proverbs 31:15 says, “She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls”.

You are making deposits into your marriage. During this two week period (ok, maybe a little longer) be prepared for your husband to do something unloving. You have greeted him, hugged him, & made his favorite meal, but later he yells at you for moving his keys. Ignore it. Don’t throw up your hands saying, “Respecting you doesn’t work. You are as unloving as ever.” You are fasting from complaining for two weeks (should have read this part earlier…oopsy). Lower your expectations. You can’t expect him to change in every area of his life because you did three nice things. Do this for God & not for your husband. God commands you to do this.

I invite you to take this one step further. As I sit here this I realize that I am guilty of something that I could do a little better. I am sitting in sweatpants, a tee shirt, no makeup, & messy hair. We would never have been seen this way when we were dating. Thank God our husbands still think we are beautiful when we are a mess. However, from time to time we should put a little extra effort into looking our best for him. I am going to be doing this challenge & all of the others along with you because I need to work on my marriage at the same time. I need to continue to strive to be the very best wife that I can be. I invite you to not only make his favorite meal or dessert but to also take a shower, put on a little makeup, set the table nice, & show him that you have gone out of your way to make him feel special.

Okay, while I had very good intentions, because my honey has been asking for oatmeal cookies... i haven't QUITE gotten around to it, but i bought the stuff last night and it is on the agenda for this evening... He has he team meeting tonight so it will be a surprise to come home to a nice glass of milk and fresh cookies. But... I have to say this, I do spoil my boys, if they want milk and something sweet, this momma takes it to them so they can enjoy it, I do feel and have always felt that my family is my ministry, I enjoy serving them and honoring my God by doing that. Sometimes i get grouchy and my heart isn't in it but i do it and most of the times without them asking, if johnny is working on his notes in his office, i will take him something to drink...

My husband hates a messy home, and I am by nature a messy person, if there are dishes and i am tired... leave them... at least the old me did... It may sound old fashioned to many and it is truly a part of my faith journey but I love to please my husband, I love for him to walk into the house and smell that it is clean, to have candle's burning and show him the warmth that appreciates he has worked hard for us. AND there are times I want to take my shoe and shove it down his throat...LOL yes, we all have those day but they are getting fewer and far between because my family is my gift from God and taking care of them is part of who I am. I rarely get to sit down when i am at home in the evening the challenge to me is not to show my frustration when it is there. To not snap at my son and to not make smart remarks to my husband because that ruins the good that I have done. AND to not expect him to notice or even say thank you... How much good has our good Lord done and gone unthanked for? BUT he did it anyway... Serve your family with love in your heart and everything comes full circle...