Love is patient

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
---Ephesians 4:2

If you haven’t seen the movie Fireproof, you need to…married or not, the basis of this movie is to love… I almost hate to put this down but if my husband reads it…oh well, I went and got the book, The Love Dare that the movie is based on, and I have actually had it for over a week and hadn’t found the right day to start it so I am starting today. After reading the introduction to the book and the first day’s ‘dare’, it has already really been very emotional for me, I am sure because of everything that has transpired in the last few weeks.

Love is a decision, not a feeling…it is a choice that you have to make every single moment, to love unconditionally…

My most angelic and wonderful friend Alice was the first person that told me that phrase… Love is a decision, think about it… You have to DECIDE to love someone because feelings come and go, but making the choice to love no matter what…THAT is what the whole point is… to decide to love your spouse… good times or bad, sweet or grouchy… no matter what. But it carries over to every part of your life really, no matter what we go through with my Mom or anyone in my family for that matter, I have decided to love them unconditionally…because there will be days (and even weeks) that I don’t like them at all, but I will ALWAYS love them. Who doesn’t want that kind of guarantee? I have to be willing to live my words if I expect to get that kind of love in return, which is the point of the book right? Most importantly, I have a small little piece of heaven that God has entrusted to me that looks to me as an example, who sees how I live every day and will repeat the actions I show him… so I MUST show him love…unconditional love that is…

If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.
1 Corinthians 13:1-3

Day 1: Love is patient

Patience helps you give your spouse permission to be human. it understands that everyone fails. When a mistake is made, it chooses to give them more time than they deserve to correct it. It gives you the ability to hold on during the tough times in your relationship rather than bailing out under pressure…